Why we are often misunderstood.

There is no doubt that secrets have led to more misunderstanding and fear in our relationships than from any other source.

Our failures to share these secrets with those who want to love us can only be seen as a selfish failure to love on our part. How can we expect them to love us if we didn’t show them the way to our hearts and souls?

By not giving them a clue how can we blame them for their negative reactions to our cry for help and forgiveness when we misstep. Oh woe is me until we have finally seen the error of our ways. From deep within we can hear the moans coming from many a memory of the sorrow we have caused by a secret which should never have been kept.

Sharing secrets gives you the understanding and compassion needed to help form the bond of trust needed to create a lasting love relationship. Your best friend will end up being your true love. Protect those secrets. Make some rules together, and enforce them gently in the language of love.

Apologize when you break a rule, and never do it again, so your love can continue to grow. Remember the Golden Rule. You will need it for guidance many times on the path to your true love. Loving one another is not easy. Love has rules. So too, must you.

With love, comes peace of mind.

Whenever possible, love should never be gray. You either do or you don't. Either you can or you can't. You either will or you won't.

A simple thing, black and white, for it is in the gray areas of our lives that we must live with our doubts and our fears. The simple strength we garner from things that appear black and white sustains us in times of chaos.

Like a sheltered anchorage in a stormy sea, we rely on love to calm our fears and steady our course as we sail from one adventure to the next.
To dwell for long in a world full of gray can fill your life with doubts.

Love should never be gray. Either you can or you can't. You either will or you won't. You either do or you don't.

Make the decision and find some peace of mind.
 
J.Siler

When your passion turns to anger, what should you do about it?

 
     For all of us, the mention of certain subjects, objects, or people can cause the visceral rise of anger up into our throats. If we fail to get these feelings under control, we often suffer from the consequences of our own words and actions.
 
If this happens to you more often than you would like, you need to do a few things in advance to give you better control in these stress filled situations. This advance preparation can have a wonderful effect on your ability to prevent your anger from damaging the causes that stir your passions.
 
Each temple pulsing, fist clenching moment comes to us via a trigger. This trigger is the key to what our response is now-anger, and what we wish it was-persuasive. Yes, I said persuasive. Everyone with a cause wishes everyone around them would join their cause. When it happens, we become happier. It is hard to argue with this kind of logic.
 
Here is where advanced planning can really pay off. Done right you will be thought of as a person of great personal passions instead of a raving fanatic. Think back to the last blazing hot confrontation you had. Which one of you walked away looking like a nutcase with a bad attitude?
 
Ready to become a someone who lives life with truly great personal passions? That may sound a little over the top, but, it is our passions that bind us together. Never underestimate the role that passions have played in most revolutionary change. And, by all means never forget the powerful emotions that drive that change. Here comes the caveat. If you want change without physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual bloodshed, anger is the wrong emotion to use.
 
Getting back on track we must take a closer look at one of those moments when anger took control and look a little deeper to see if we can find the underlying passion. Politic, global climate change, social justice issues, personal religious beliefs, racial tensions, cultural norms, and so on are some of the noble causes that draw out strong opinions on both sides of every argument. It is not unusual for us to develop a serious dislike for those who are the most vocal opponents to our own point of view. Can you feel the anger rising in your throat as they come to mind?
 
This little recall exercise should have brought to mind at least one of your passions, as well as your feelings toward those who oppose your efforts to promote change. Good. This is where advanced planning can put you on top in a heated discussion, or at least let you walk away with your head up rather than with tail between legs.
 
Your righteous anger will need to be replaced with some form of persuasion for you to gain the upper hand or hold your own in a debate. To do this you must develop some irrefutable reasons to support your cause. I say irrefutable because fiction and fairy tales win very few arguments. Remind them that it is foolish to throw caution to the wind, especially when we are dealing with a few unknowns. 
 
You should be armed with at least three good reasons why they should respect your passion. It won't take long after you do this to discover the truth that the best defense must include a good offense. Simply put, don’t bother having an opinion if you are not prepared to defend it.
 
One of my own pet peeves is when people spout rhetoric one liners from famous people with no real knowledge of what the underlining passion is. It is one thing to share a passion, it’s quite another to blindly hop on a bandwagon. If you hope to persuade anyone that you are passionate about something, a little knowledge goes a long way.The goal is to empower you to take control of your passions and be happier as a result.
 
Passions are funny things. They can be big, and powerful, and overwhelming. And, they can also be tiny little jewels in your crown as king or queen of your personal kingdom. If you have a passion for something, I guarantee you there are others out there ready and willing to share it with you. One example would be recycling. There are happy recyclers and there are angry recyclers.
 
You can set out to save the world by demanding that everyone recycle under penalty of your personal scorn, or you can set the example by following your passion and then strike up spirited conversations about your exciting efforts to save the planet for future generations. Need I point out which method is most effective. The lesson learned here goes hand in hand with efforts at persuasion. Every passion has a positive face. Find yours and put it on.
 
To be a truly passionate person you must live and breathe your passions every day. From now on let whatever triggers your anger trigger a positive response instead. A little knowledge and preparation will make you a more passionate person. Don't let your anger destroy who you want to be. May your passion for life shine through your conversations so they can see you for who you are.
 
One last note: Mutual respect for each other’s right to have a different opinion will leave each discussion open for further consideration in the future.
 
J. Siler
 
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High Spirits

 Post from The Morning Whisper

Here we are in transition. As our understanding of the immortal nature of the soul given to us God improves, so does our awareness of a great power that emanates from within. Like the pounding pulse of the Risen Christ, we feel the presence of The Holy Spirit.

With each incremental step in the strength of our faith, we feel the power of this Spirit rise up to give us the courage to defend our faith to others. There is no other way, for we are weak and afraid, just as the Apostles were in the days right after the people of Jerusalem crucified Christ. This new found courage comes directly to us as a gift from the Holy Spirit. He is the third person of our Triune God.

Jesus knew that His Church would need The Spirit to grow. Through the scriptures written about the days following Christ's Resurrection we will hear many stories of the coming of the Spirit and the effects it had on the disciples of Christ.

What we learn from these readings gives us a better understanding of the presence of the Holy Spirit within our own selves. Yes, we need the Spirit to grow too. We need the Spirit to follow Christ's teachings. We need the Spirit to give us the courage to stand up for what we believe. Just as it was for the first apostles, we too are a part of the growing Church. It is the Spirit of God that raises our own spirits higher and higher until we reach the entrance to the Kingdom of God.

Prayer:
Most Holy Spirit, Beloved of my soul, I adore You.
Enlighten me, guide me, comfort me, console me.
I promise to submit myself to all You desire of me,
and permit all You wish to happen to me.
Give me Your orders, tell me what to do.
Most Holy Spirit, bring Peace to the world.
Amen.

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Collage

It was nice to flex my creative side and use images I purchased at CanStockPhoto to create website covers for my Love Relationship Repair Manuals at TrueLoveQuestMedia.com. The message in every photo came through loud and clear. I used Adobe CS5 Photoshop and InDesign to pull each cover together.

Finding the Secrets to True Love

Wring down the many secrets to creating a true love relationship is not as easy as you might think. Even after writing the book, I still struggle to use just the right words to get people to open the door to their heart and let my words inside. To get people to do that I found I had to find a way to establish a bond of trust between myself and them.

Unless you are content with just skimming the surface, at some point you have to make the plunge. I use this blog to keep my mind focused on the knowledge that I want my writings to reach as many people as possible.

Having already completed the book, I have not been posting to this blog as often as I should. As I regain my writing spirit and restore the discipline necessary to be a successful writer, I will be posting here more often. Love is important to me.

If you just need a pointer or two, or like to ponder the depths of True Love, come visit me here at what I call my Secret Blog. I promise it will be worth your while.

You can find my secrets blog at http://www.TrueLoveWanted.com

Our Quest To Love and Be Loved

The beginning of my writing career started at the moment when I discovered the secrets to finding True Love. With that incredible moment to draw on, I launched myself into the unknown and started writing, confident I could share all I knew about love. My very first project was to write the definitive book containing all the secrets to true love. I completed it five years later and titled it Our Quest To Love and Be Loved.

It did take me all of five years to complete, and with it at least six revisions of the original draft. In the process that led to the final draft, I became a seasoned writer. Looking back, I realize now that I had probably picked the most intense and difficult subject I could have for my first project. It forced me to mature, not only in my writing style, but also in my ability to relate to people of all ages. It completely changed my view of the opposite sex, not to mention the very old and the very young too, as I had to draw on past experiences to fill in the 300+ pgs of what turned out to be a very serious endeavor.

Along the way I discovered that most people prefer to learn about love in small chunks, a few paragraphs or a phrase or two at a time. It is easier to digest that way, and leads to less guilt and self incrimination. I finished and published the book anyway, even while I knew that it would be difficult to read more than a few pages at a time. A bookmark turned out to be essential so I started to include one with every book purchased from my website.

If you are interested in the most complete and comprehensive study of love ever put down in writing, please visit my book website.

You will find my first book, Our Quest To Love and Be Loved at http://www.TrueLoveQuest.net